WORKING OUT

While a person can feel better after a good talk with a friend or relative, try working your anger out by going to the gym or going for a walk or a run. By doing physical exercise, you can calm your anger to a state of peacefulness. Eating habits must be monitored when you are angry as well, because sometimes people eat an excessive amount of food when they are angry, which causes high blood, diabetes and extra weight in areas you don’t want. Often times if you take a deep breath take a personal time out, think before you react and think of your consequences behind your actions, you have then completed an anger work out in the mind. Being in control of your anger physically is so vital, because you could possibly hurt someone or possibly end up being hurt. Always remember, hurt people who never heal from the heart, will turn around and inflict that same hurt upon someone else. Have you ever tried to make someone feel what you were feeling by trying to explain it in words, but you felt they didn’t understand, so you decided to hurt them the way you were hurt so they could actually feel the same hurt you were feeling? Well if this sounds like you, you definitely need to give us a call for all of your anger issues. No problem is to big or to small; all we need is a willing heart, mind and soul that have a strong desire to change. By doing something physically exerting, you can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you feel that you are going to erupt. You can swim, walk, run, shoot basketball, write poetry or play football etc. Visualize yourself in a relaxing scene, or simply repeat a calming phrase, such as "I am like still water, I am calm in the midst of my anger".

DEEP BREATHING TECHNIQUES

Practice daily deep breathing techniques, to keep your body in a calm mode. Learn to paint, plant flowers, listen to soft music, journal your anger and do yoga. Once you are in a control state of mind, express your anger as soon as possible, so that you are not left steaming. If you are unable to express your anger to the person you are angry with, immediately talk it over with a friend, family member, church member, your leader at your church or a counselor or another trusted person. It is a good thing to think before you say anything, so that you don’t say something you’ll regret. Make a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues at hand. Work with the person who you are angry with, so you can identify solutions to the situation. Use more `I` statements when describing the problem, to avoid criticizing or placing blame totally on the other person. An illustration would be, when you say "I’m upset with you, because I feel you ignored my feelings today when I told you that I truly loved you, instead of, "you should have told me you loved me back". If you do otherwise, you will likely upset the other person and escalate tension. Don’t hold grudges, because it is so easy to do, but learn to forgive the other person. It’s unrealistic to have expectations to expect everyone to behave just as you do. You also must utilize a great sense of humor to release tension and frustration, in essence, learn to laugh at silly things that you allow to anger you and picture you and the other person laughing at the situation together instead of being angry together. Don’t use sarcasm though; it’s another form of unhealthy expression of anger. Began an anger journal log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions. Began practicing relaxation skills, to relax and de-stress, because it will help control your temper when it flares up. We want to help the entire person, through physical, mental and emotional strategies to cope with our fast pace society, as it relates to anger. Practice daily deep breathing techniques, to keep your body in a calm mode. Learn to paint, plant flowers, listen to soft music, journal your anger and do yoga. Once you are in a control state of mind, express your anger as soon as possible, so that you are not left steaming. If you are unable to express your anger to the person you are angry with, immediately talk it over with a friend, family member, church member, your leader at your church or a counselor or another trusted person. It is a good thing to think before you say anything, so that you don’t say something you’ll regret. Make a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues at hand. Work with the person who you are angry with, so you can identify solutions to the situation. Use more `I` statements when describing the problem, to avoid criticizing or placing blame totally on the other person. An illustration would be, when you say "I’m upset with you, because I feel you ignored my feelings today when I told you that I truly loved you, instead of, "you should have told me you loved me back". If you do otherwise, you will likely upset the other person and escalate tension. Don’t hold grudges, because it is so easy to do, but learn to forgive the other person. It’s unrealistic to have expectations to expect everyone to behave just as you do. You also must utilize a great sense of humor to release tension and frustration, in essence, learn to laugh at silly things that you allow to anger you and picture you and the other person laughing at the situation together instead of being angry together. Don’t use sarcasm though; it’s another form of unhealthy expression of anger. Began an anger journal log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions. Began practicing relaxation skills, to relax and de-stress, because it will help control your temper when it flares up. We want to help the entire person, through physical, mental and emotional strategies to cope with our fast pace society, as it relates to anger.